Hosting Houseguests

Being a gracious host to houseguests is very different from entertaining people for a few hours on Saturday night. You and your guests will be in close proximity for at least a day or two; for the sake of your sanity and theirs, don’t feel you must entertain them every minute of their stay. Your duty is to make guests feel at home. Offering some activities or amusements will help; overbooking them will not.

1. Issue clear invitations. Invite guests for a specific amount of time and mention a departure day. You’ll save embarrassment and hurt feelings by tactfully letting your company know ahead of time when the “house party” will end.

2. Help them pack. Tell guests what activities you have in mind (boating, skiing, black-tie party, and so forth) so they can pack accordingly. If weather is an issue, advise them about the local forecast.

3. Show them the ropes. After guests arrive, tell them where to find what they need (towels, extra blankets, etc.) and how your household runs. (Is it okay to help themselves to the refrigerator? Is the cat allowed out?)

4. Explain mealtime plans. If you have specific plans for meals that include your guests, let them know ahead of time. If you expect guests to help themselves for certain meals, tell them what is available and where to find food and dishes. Better yet, set things out ahead of time.

5. Don’t overschedule guests. Don’t feel you must entertain guests all day and all evening long. Just as you’d probably like some quiet time to yourself, your guests may, too. Ease into this with a clear suggestion: “I thought you’d appreciate an hour to yourself . . .”

6. Pamper them. A few special touches will make them feel at home—only better.